Friend, today I am going to share from the heart one of the biggest lessons I have ever learned about brokenness. My prayer is that the same God who is rebuilding the broken pieces with me will give you a glimpse of hope where you are feeling broken.
Maybe you and I, we’re never meant to be complete. Could we just be broken together? If you can bring your shattered dreams and I’ll bring mine. Could healing still be spoken and save us? The only way we’ll last forever is broken together. – Broken Together- Casting Crowns
Relationships are hard.
Especially the ones with the people you interact with every day.
Because in our own way, deep down within each of us, we are broken.
Some more than others, but no one walks this earth unscathed in some way.
Not even Jesus did.
I have found that when I am feeling broken, I have a tendency to hide away, lick my wounds and brood. Occasionally, a full blown cry fest erupts, leaving me exhausted on top of the broken pieces I am trying so hard to hold together.
But we were designed for community. With our best friends and families, but especially in marriage, if we have been blessed with that gift.
These past 25 years together, my hubby and I have had a lot of mileage into the realm of brokenness. It has been harder than I imagined at times, more painful than I ever thought, and gone deeper than I ever dreamed possible.
Yet together we are stronger because of it, for we can see God moving better in each other at times than we can sense Him moving within ourselves.
Building one another up when the other is feeling low. Being the shoulder to cry on when we need to let it out.
Because the secret to being broken in a marriage and still staying married?
The three stranded cord.
By yourself you’re unprotected. With a friend you can face the worst. Can you round up a third? A three-stranded rope isn’t easily snapped. Ecclesiastes 4:12 (MSG)
When even one of you invite God into your marriage, He intertwines Himself into it. He becomes the stabilizer, the marriage counselor. He gives you the love to express when you feel empty, yet your hubby needs to know you care. He gives your hubby the strength to just listen & tell you he loves you.
Without God, our marriage would not have made it this far.
Because in our own strength we would have run on empty long ago.
It’s not about having made a bad pick, or being a mismatched pair.
It’s making the one you are with your mate, supported by the Love that never fails, never gives up and never runs out on either of you, or your marriage.
If you know you are broken and need help, pray and ask God to bring you to the right resources, or bring the best help to you.
Your spouse’s brokenness isn’t for you to heal, that is His job. They need your support and love as they face their own brokenness and support you in yours.
God knew when He designed marriage that we would need one another:
In better, in worse.
In sickness, in health.
With wealth, without much.
Whether whole or broken.
The amazing thing I have found? My hubby and I have not been so broken in the same ways that we couldn’t be there for one another. Often not perfectly, but present none the less.
In His mercy, He makes us the mate our spouse needs. Whether we have broken bits or not.
Only God can take what is broken, and shape it to make something beautiful.
- He is with us, every step of the journey.
- His Presence draws closer with every request for Him to come and be nearer.
- His love, strength, grace and mercy are more than enough for what you and your spouse may face today.
He longs to restore and repair where we are broken, and can do amazing things when we place ourselves in His hands.
Broken together with the Potter makes for a beautiful finish beyond belief.
When we give Him all the pieces, He can make us whole again, one piece at a time.
#broken #hopefortheharddays #hopeinHisPresence
KARLA LEES 